Tools for Peace

• put any strong emotions to one side - temporarily

• step outside of the moment and take a helicopter view

• make a distinction between the principle at stake, and the practical issue

• get a sense of how important the practical issue is or you and its actual, practical effect on your life

• identify a relationship between the principle and a sense of feeling ‘wronged’ or personal injury that usually lies beneath the principle
• peer into the future, picture the consequences of the conflict escalating and imagine the lasting damage it could do in your life and the lives of those involved

proceed to step 2